Turn Away From Foolish Disputes

Today, I’m going to give a little friendship advice, and this is all from my own personal experience.

I think most of you know my BFF, Emma. From how we always talk about each other, you’d think that there’s no way we ever really argue, huh? Well, I’ve got news for you – Emma and I have argued/fought many times. Although we hardly ever do now, I honestly can’t remember the last time we did! Usually now it’s just a quick disagreement that’s over within 2 minutes.

So today I’m going to share a little of our history and how we came to settle our little arguing problem 🙂

When I first met Emma I thought she was annoying and way too crazy (don’t worry, I’ve already told her this XD ). She considered me her friend, I didn’t really. It wasn’t until our moms got together at Applebee’s and brought us along that we really made a connection. I actually had a ton of fun! This happened a few more times and before long, I considered her a friend, and was surprised when she actually became my best friend. Who would have ever thought, right? Opposites attract, it’s a fact 😉

Skipping ahead, Emma and I were talking on the phone all the time, but one night when we were talking about a story we wanted to write together, the home phone started dying, so I had to hang up. I asked my mom if we could text since we were super into our planning and all (I wasn’t allowed to text friends at the time) and my mom agreed. Ever since then, Emma and I have been texting ALL the time. I don’t even know how we have enough to talk about XD

Well, unfortunately, our arguments/fights began when we started texting. I think it’s because we didn’t know how the other was saying something, so we would read it wrong. Plus when you text, it’s so much easier to say something that normally you wouldn’t say in person. We were fighting a lot and one time I got so upset that I was shaking and even started to cry. I’m not going to blame Emma, though, we were both in the wrong. I was frustrated with her, she with me.
Emma and I would talk about our fights now and then, trying to figure out a way to solve it, because we, of course, didn’t enjoy it. We first tried not texting as much. That didn’t work so well. Then we realized, we had to learn to bite our tongues – or – our fingers. We had to train ourselves to really think about what we were about to say. I’d read my texts first and then think, “Well, she might think I’m saying it this way”, or, “No, I shouldn’t say that.” By doing that, I learned what triggered an argument, and what didn’t. Also, adding the laughing emoji at the end of a sentence you’re unsure about is always a good call XD

This really helped us to get along better and I think it was a good thing for both of us to learn. We still get annoyed with each other, that’s just bound to happen in any relationship, but I think we’ve really learned not to let our difference of opinions turn into crazy arguments. 🙂

I read a verse in my Bible time recently that is perfect for this topic:

“But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife.” 2 Timothy 2:23

Our arguments were very foolish. We argued a lot about ridiculous things that didn’t even matter. Sadly, this happens for a lot of people, probably just about everyone. If we all could learn to bite our tongues and to really think before we spoke, we could avoid so many unnecessary arguments. And what a happier world this would be, too…

I really hope this post was encouraging to you! If you have any questions or comments, please let me know. I’d love to hear from you 🙂

Have a great day!


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13 thoughts on “Turn Away From Foolish Disputes”

    1. LOLOL! Yep, I did! Or maybe hyper is the word? Or energetic? I don’t know, something like that LOL! XD
      I know, we both get completely insane! LOL! XD
      Thanks, Cookie! It made me happy typing up this post – I’m so glad we don’t argue like that anymore 🙂

  1. Ha ha! I didn’t even know you guys fought! Me and my BFF almost NEVER fight. Sometimes we get into small arguments, but it’s usually that I’m telling her not to do something. (She’s super energetic and hyper and sometimes a tad crazy! Whenever she comes up with a ‘crazy, Mom’s not gonna let us do it idea’ we get into an argument of whether or not to do her idea.) She is the super fun and hyper girl, and I’m the super fun girl who tries to talk her outa crazy ideas! This was a great post, Jaclyn!

    1. LOL! Yep, we do! XD
      I think that’s awesome that you always choose to do the right thing in those situations 🙂
      Thank you so much, Anika! 🙂

  2. This was great! You’re asbsolutely right. I finally made a best friend after a year of living here and I’m always on the lookout for tips that will help our friendship. This post really encouraged me! I’ll definitely remember to think before I speak (or type), and to turn away from foolish disputes before they happen! 😀

    1. Thanks, Madi! 🙂
      Oh, I’m so glad you have a best friend now! That is awesome. I was praying that you would make new friends there 🙂
      I’m really happy to hear this was helpful for you! 🙂

  3. wow, great topic. Ya i also have fought about stupid things with my friends but, the important part is to forgive them. In the end we usually just laugh at it. It’s great to have a friend like your friend Emma. This was a great post! Can’t wait for more!! 🙂 🙂

    1. Thanks so much, Ag Girl! 🙂 LOL! Yeah, Emma and I have talked about our old fights a lot and we laugh over them because they were so ridiculous XD

  4. Fantastic post! What a great point. 🙂
    I completely agree though….online communication (whether it be through texting/instant messaging/emailing/etc.) can be incredibly misunderstood. We have to read our messages carefully before we send them, because it can be taken to mean something totally different in the other person’s eyes. And such close friendships are too precious to be broken up over a little misunderstanding. 🙂
    Just another great example and great message….think before you speak. Love it, Jaclynn!

    1. Oh, absolutely! I’m always trying to be careful with what I’m typing now. I need to work on thinking before I speak, though… 😉
      Thanks so much, Misty! 🙂

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