Modesty & True Beauty

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about modesty and true beauty.

This summer I have been having an extremely hard time trying to find a modestย swimsuit. It’s honestly sickening that there are hardly any one pieces sold anymore. And the ones there are, the prints are ugly. All the cute prints are used on the hundreds of bikinis, unfortunately.
Is this really what our world has come to? Just think of how people used to dress hundreds of years ago. Women covered their entire body – if a woman’s ankle showed, it was scandalous.
Then eventually, it became okay to show your ankles. Then your arms, then shoulders.
In the time we’re living in now, girls expose their entire legs, their stomachs, backs – just about every part of their body. Girls in church even dress this way.

1 Timothy 2:9-10 says;
“….in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but which proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”

To quote the notes in my Bible; “The emphasis is that women should dress appropriately when at worship, and not put on extravagant clothes that draw attention to themselves. Propriety means reverence and respect, shrinking away from what is inappropriate.”

God doesn’t want us to dress inappropriately, He wants us to be modest and not wear things that bring attention to ourselves. It’s sad that girls these days feel like they need to dress a certain way to be “beautiful.” True beauty comes from within and it’s really what’s inside you that’s important.

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

“For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

Practice true beauty. Be the person God wants you to be. Kindness, love, self-control, compassion, strength, faith, trust, generosity, – these are all things that make you truly beautiful. :)

~Jaclynn~

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47 thoughts on “Modesty & True Beauty”

  1. It is really sad of what our world has come too. It is really hard to find one pieces any more. My Mom just got me a tankini. It is a good two piece like a shirt and shorts. It is one of the few modest things in the store that she found! It’s just unbelievable.

    I recently voted on a poll on Goodreads, and the question was “Does Modestly Matter?” There were four options:

    1. ABSALOUTLY!!!
    2. Not that much.
    3. I don’t know….

    Me being – well, me – I chose ABSALOUTLY!! And I was a little surprised that 36 out of 36 people voted for number 1! And the comments were amazing! Here is a link to the poll!

    https://www.goodreads.com/poll/show/138102-does-modesty-matter

    Thanks so much for writing about this! Because I really think that MODESTY MATTERS.

    1. I know! It’s such a pain. We saw hardly any one pieces in the stores :/
      Oh wow! That’s amazing! Thanks for sharing with me ๐Ÿ˜‰
      You’re welcome! I definitely do, too! :)
      ~Jaclynn~

  2. Ahh, this is so true! So many people are over obsessed with their appearances. True beauty comes from the heart and the Holy Spirit, not from loads of makeup and inappropriate clothes. It’s so hard these days to avoid these things…just turn on the TV! There are tons of ads and commercials that are trying to make you insecure about yourself so that you BUY SOMETHING. It seems that’s what it’s all about these days…buying more and more stuff. Once my mom and I were somewhere (I can’t remember where, Disney, maybe?) and three girls took a selfie together. After they took it one of them asked, “Do I look OK?” Now, there’s nothing wrong with making sure a picture looks nice before you post it anywhere, because it will be opened up to millions of people, but we both found it quite sad that girls these days are so focused on their appearance and trying to please others, especially boys. I find it sickening that boys would find immodest clothing attractive.
    Swimsuits are a perfect example. The closest I ever get to wear a bikini is getting a *very* low tankini two piece. Some bikinis aren’t too bad, but the majority are “skimpy” and barely cover anything. And it seems that even the one piece ones have something “wrong” with them – either the pattern is ugly or the neckline is very low, etc. It’s so hard to find one that’s modest AND cute.
    Shorts are another example. Some shorts are so short it seems your undergarments would be showing! My grandma often says if you’re wearing something that short, you might as well not be wearing anything at all!

    Phew! *takes deep breath* Sorry for my rant, but I have very strong opinions about this topic. What you said is extremely true. Thank you for posting! :)

    ~Grace <3

    1. Oh I know! It’s awful how the world influences young girls to do wrong things.
      Yep, I think that’s the whole reason girls dress that way – to be noticed by boys. Honestly, I don’t want to be noticed because of that – I want to be noticed for who I am!
      Yeah, we’re thinking I might have to wear a tankini with board shorts if we can’t find anything soon :/
      Oh my word, I know! It’s so true – with the shorts and tops girls wear these days, I don’t know why they don’t just go out in their underwear! It’s disgusting!
      Oh, no worries! I do, too. I am constantly disgusted whenever I go out.
      You’re welcome! :)
      ~Jaclynn~

      1. Indeed, it is. This world is so hard to grow up in with everyone telling you you’re not good enough and need to wear a certain thing and act a certain way. And many girls listen to those messages! The real message they should be listening to is God’s word.
        Me too! Boys who find inappropriate things attractive are not boys I want to be around. :(
        Yes! Some shorts are so short the shirts are longer than the shorts, and it looks like you’re not wearing any shorts! It’s just disgusting!
        Hehe, thanks! I’m glad I have someone who feels the same way. :)

        ~Grace <3

        1. It definitely is and I completely agree!
          Yeah, same here…
          Oh, ugh!! I know, that drives me crazy! ๐Ÿ˜›
          You’re welcome! ๐Ÿ˜‰
          ~Jaclynn~

    2. Thy speakeast the truth. ๐Ÿ˜› I hate wearing bikinis, even though I’m pretty skinny. It just feels like wearing underwear. (Sorry if that was too weird) :( I agree with your opinions wholeheartedly. It is truly quite sickening- I just don’t understand it! I like to look nice but not to change my appearance completely. I do it for me though-I don’t do it for anyone else because NO ONE CARES. I, like many other people, judge myself harder than anyone will ever judge me.
      I see no point in beauty guru YouTube channels, practically all they do is buy makeup and share clothing and outfits and makeup looks- and girls will have to feel like they have to change to look like that.
      Who decided what ‘beautiful’ is? Who said that perfect cheekbones, white teeth, perfect tan skin and flat soft hair is beautiful? It is hard to be truly pretty when you don’t have a good heart.

      And, Jaclynn, as for swimsuits, you’re SO right. I like tankinis- but the only ones stores have have super low necklines and just-ugh.

      Modest clothes are just not considered ‘cool’ but that’s not important, right? I have plenty of modern-looking, modest-but-still cute clothing.

      (This is getting very long) ๐Ÿ˜›
      ***
      I’m also going to put a little button on my sidebar, in honor of true beauty. I hope maybe other bloggers will be able to do the same thing so we can let people know what truly matters. The idea is to write a short caption under the button (once I get it up) explaining your thoughts on beauty. What do you think?
      Thanks for sharing your opinions. More people need to read this. :)
      -Rutvi

      1. Thank you! LOL! No worries, I get what you mean ๐Ÿ˜‰
        I’m the same way. I love looking nice and putting on makeup because it makes me feel good, but I don’t let it get to my head ๐Ÿ˜‰
        Amen!
        Yes, it’s awful! :(
        Right! You can still look cute and be modest! :)

        That sounds pretty awesome, Rutvi! ๐Ÿ˜€
        You’re welcome! And thank you, too! :)
        ~Jaclynn~

        1. Mhm, exactly. Like Grace said, it’s sickening that boys find short and skimpy clothing attractive. *shudders* If that is what a boy likes you for he doesn’t TRULY appreciate you.
          -Rutvi โšฝ๏ธ

  3. Yes! I totally agree. A lot of modest suits are ugly or unflattering… I have the same struggle every time I shop, not just for swim suits, but for shorts, skirts, etc. Not all girls want to wear ripped and slouchy stuff! Thanks for posting. ๐Ÿ˜€
    <3 , IrishAG

    1. Oh, yes! Shorts are usually hard for me to find, but I found that Target had a nice selection of Bermudas and so did Kohls, so that was good :)
      Thank you! And you’re welcome :)
      ~Jaclynn~

  4. Ok…so i really liked this post! But some things i’m just not sure about…I believe in “Purity”, and “Modesty”! But I think it’s ok to have a split shirt if it is what you want. I think it’s the way you wear your clothes that make them wrong, If you flirt in a pair of short short and a split shirt it can have an appearance that makes you (the outfit) desirable to the opposite gender. But if you wear the outfit without flirting it can be very nice! When I say a split i mean something small not an outlandish split, or shorts that show your private places. Just descent short shorts and a small split. I don’t want any of this to sound rude but I just wanted to share what i thought. And I don’t agree with myself wearing a bikini but if it’s what other girls want then i think it’s their choice and their own conviction. You see modesty is a conviction. You can choose for yourself your own standards. I’m sorry I need to quit now I just wanted to share my thoughts. God Bless!!!!!! ~Reya #UNASHAMED #PEACE4ALL #ENDIT
    Ps. Please understand I don’t want to make anyone mad or be rude?!?!?!

    1. Thank you, Reya! I’m glad you enjoyed it :)
      I see what you’re saying, and I’m not judging you, but I just have to disagree with that. Boys don’t know how you’re wearing the outfit, and to them, it doesn’t really matter. The fact is, that’s attractive to them, no matter how you act in it. Speaking for myself, I don’t want to wear those things because I know that it’s attractive to boys ๐Ÿ˜‰
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and don’t worry, you didn’t sound mean. We’re all free to share our opinions. I hope I didn’t offend you ๐Ÿ˜‰
      ~Jaclynn~

      1. Thank You!!!!! I didn’t want to sound rude!! Please check out my blog?! I hope you will like it if you do!! GOD BLESS!!!! LOVES!!!!!!!!!

  5. Hey Jaclynn!
    Great post!! Have you ever considered buying a two-piece swimsuit with a modest, full-length top with a long pair of shorts? I totally understand your struggle in swimsuit shopping and I’ve found that buying two separate, modest pieces can result in one cute suit!

    1. Thank you, Miriam! :)
      We have considered buying a tankini and board shorts, but we’re trying our best to avoid that until we know for sure there are no one pieces :)
      Thank you for your advice! :)
      ~Jaclynn~

  6. Amen!! I totally agree with you!
    In today’s culture, so many girls feel that to receive attention or to be accepted by peers(a lot of times they are wanting approval from guys) they have to show of their body. But it’s really sad to see that they think that’s what will end up in a good relationship, when really, all it will grant you is heartache and guilt. A good relationship is going to be built on one that respects each other because of the other’s character and relationship with God!
    Thanks so much for posting this, Jaclynn!!!

    1. Thank you, Lainey! :)
      Yes, it’s really sad that they feel that way. And I agree with you, too ๐Ÿ˜‰
      You’re welcome! :)
      ~Jaclynn~

  7. Oh, and I feel ya! Now I just mainly stick to a cute swimming shirt and shorts-even my modest swimming suite goes a little lower than I’d like. Irritating!!

  8. Wow this is a good topic. I definitely think nowadays people (not all people) tend to care about appearance more than they should and they don’t focus on things they should!! Also if you are looking for a one piece bathing suits I got mine at Costco and it was pretty.

  9. Great post! I agree wholeheartedly with everything you’ve said. :)
    So far, what’s worked for me is wearing a one-piece with board shorts and a rashguard. It’s actually really comfortable – not to mention modest! ๐Ÿ˜‰
    I used to wear suits from swimmodest.com, but they got super expensive so I had to stop. ๐Ÿ˜‰ But you can still check them out – they’re very pretty!

    ~Lizzy

    1. Thanks, Lizzy! ๐Ÿ˜€
      Ah, yes. I wear a one piece with board shorts, too :)
      Oh, thanks! I’ll tell my mom about it! :)
      ~Jaclynn~

  10. Amen! I have also had a hard time finding modest clothing. My mom and I were just at the mall and saying how we need to just open our own store with modest swimsuits, appropriate length shorts, skirts, and dresses, and just some normal shirts without skimpy straps or low necklines! Sometimes it can be hard to dress modestly when others around you are not. When I go to the pool with my friends I am pretty much always the only one dressing the way God wants me to, and that can be hard. However, I have found so much joy and peace in knowing that I am not of this world and that I am of my Heavenly Father, and I love being modest because it lets me honor God in so many ways. I am so thankful for communities like this where we as Christian girls can come together and talk about this! Thanks Jaclynn!
    -AGcmg-

    1. Oh, that would be so awesome! Can you make it a franchise that comes out here? XD
      Awe, that is so great! I too sometimes can feel a little awkward when I’m the only one not wearing skinny jeans, but I immediately shut those thoughts out :)
      You’re welcome! I’m glad we can talk about this, too :)
      ~Jaclynn~

  11. Also, my mom and I recently discovered a store called Downeast Basics. We shop there online but the have some stores throughout the western U.S. ALL of their clothes are modest and they have a great selection of shorts, tops, skirts, and dresses as well as swimsuits that are all either one pieces or tankinis! Here’s the link:
    http://www.downeastbasics.com

    -AGcmg-

  12. I wear a two-piece, but I found one that’s so long it looks like a one-piece. My mom stitched up the neckline (because nuh-uh was I wearing anything with a neckline that low!) and it’s been great. I’d love to have one of those vintage swimsuits though- those are wonderful.

    1. Oh, that’s great, AA! I’m really happy because my mom was able to find me a swimsuit on Target’s site that was on clearance for $8! It’s been great! ๐Ÿ˜€
      ~Jaclynn~

  13. And on ugly one-piece swimsuits, I managed to find one- it’s almost a size too small, granted- cute one. It actually fits really well, even if the day after I wore it the strap broke off and I had to break out the needle and thread. I suggest to not just search in stores, but thrift stores and small online clothing companies- or to do what I did:

    Me: *walks up to counter and taps saleslady on shoulder*
    Lady: Huh?
    Me: Excuse me ma’am, does your store carry adorable modest 1-piece swimsuits?
    Lady: Uh…. I’ll go check in the back.

    10 minutes later

    Me: Oh my stars, it’s perfect, thanks a million!

    I honestly don’t think God intended us to walk around practically stark-naked. *grimaces*

  14. Hey Jaclynn!
    I haven’t been on here in a while but on a whim decided to check this blog today and found this post.
    I completely agree with everything you said! My mom has always told me how important it is to be modest and I have always made sure that my clothes and swimsuits fit that description.
    It really bugs me when I go to church (or anywhere, really) and see girls wearing short shorts and tank tops. ๐Ÿ˜› My sister and I are usually the only girls our age there that are wearing modest skirts/dresses. It’s depressing, especially because this is CHURCH we’re talking about….God’s House, and that’s how they choose to dress.
    I agree that girls dress this way to try to get boys’ attention. While I totally understand why they would do this, it’s not a smart way to act.
    Also, a few weeks ago I was watching a video where a female Christian singer was showing off some of the clothing in her wardrobe, and a few of the shorts she was showing in the video looked a little bit too short. I don’t know exactly how short they are, because I wasn’t looking at them in person or anything, so maybe they aren’t as short as they appeared to be. But I still felt really sick when I saw that. Plus I thought it was really sad because since she’s a Christian, she should know that God doesn’t want her to dress like that. :/
    I just realized how long this comment is….oops! But this is something I just feel very strongly about, and I’m so glad we share the same viewpoint on the subject. ๐Ÿ˜‰
    *Sunny

    1. Hi Sunny!!
      I’m so glad you did, I’ve really missed you! :)
      I completely agree. You’d think if you could find a group of modestly dressed girls, it would be in church! :(
      Yeah, it’s sad. So many Christian girls and women dress inappropriately and I just don’t get it. :/
      I feel strongly about this, too and I’m glad we have the freedom and ability to talk openly about this :)
      ~Jaclynn~

  15. Wow! Great post I agree with dressing modestly. I’ve been dressing modesty since I can remember. Do also think boys should dress modestly? In my family we do so my brother wears a rashgaurd in the pool instead of showing all of his upper body. I really like knowing that I’m not the only one dressing modestly. I agree this world is going downhill!
    -Kiki-

    1. Thank you, Kiki! :)
      Hm, I haven’t really given that too much thought, but yes, I do think boys should dress modestly, too ๐Ÿ˜‰
      It definitely is!
      ~Jaclynn~

  16. My reader definitely has problems. Why I never saw this post even though I follow your blog, I don’t know. ๐Ÿ˜› This was a really great post, and I most definitely agree with everything you said. The Bible, not magazines or TV shows, should be our standard for how we dress, and you clearly listed the perfect Scriptures. This was a super great post again – thanks for sharing! ๐Ÿ˜€
    โ€ขMadiโ€ข

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