Today, I’m going to give a little friendship advice, and this is all from my own personal experience.
I think most of you know my BFF, Emma. From how we always talk about each other, you’d think that there’s no way we ever really argue, huh? Well, I’ve got news for you – Emma and I have argued/fought many times. Although we hardly ever do now, I honestly can’t remember the last time we did! Usually now it’s just a quick disagreement that’s over within 2 minutes.
So today I’m going to share a little of our history and how we came to settle our little arguing problem
When I first met Emma I thought she was annoying and way too crazy (don’t worry, I’ve already told her this XD ). She considered me her friend, I didn’t really. It wasn’t until our moms got together at Applebee’s and brought us along that we really made a connection. I actually had a ton of fun! This happened a few more times and before long, I considered her a friend, and was surprised when she actually became my best friend. Who would have ever thought, right? Opposites attract, it’s a fact 😉
Skipping ahead, Emma and I were talking on the phone all the time, but one night when we were talking about a story we wanted to write together, the home phone started dying, so I had to hang up. I asked my mom if we could text since we were super into our planning and all (I wasn’t allowed to text friends at the time) and my mom agreed. Ever since then, Emma and I have been texting ALL the time. I don’t even know how we have enough to talk about XD
Well, unfortunately, our arguments/fights began when we started texting. I think it’s because we didn’t know how the other was saying something, so we would read it wrong. Plus when you text, it’s so much easier to say something that normally you wouldn’t say in person. We were fighting a lot and one time I got so upset that I was shaking and even started to cry. I’m not going to blame Emma, though, we were both in the wrong. I was frustrated with her, she with me.
Emma and I would talk about our fights now and then, trying to figure out a way to solve it, because we, of course, didn’t enjoy it. We first tried not texting as much. That didn’t work so well. Then we realized, we had to learn to bite our tongues – or – our fingers. We had to train ourselves to really think about what we were about to say. I’d read my texts first and then think, “Well, she might think I’m saying it this way”, or, “No, I shouldn’t say that.” By doing that, I learned what triggered an argument, and what didn’t. Also, adding the laughing emoji at the end of a sentence you’re unsure about is always a good call XD
This really helped us to get along better and I think it was a good thing for both of us to learn. We still get annoyed with each other, that’s just bound to happen in any relationship, but I think we’ve really learned not to let our difference of opinions turn into crazy arguments.
I read a verse in my Bible time recently that is perfect for this topic:
“But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife.” 2 Timothy 2:23
Our arguments were very foolish. We argued a lot about ridiculous things that didn’t even matter. Sadly, this happens for a lot of people, probably just about everyone. If we all could learn to bite our tongues and to really think before we spoke, we could avoid so many unnecessary arguments. And what a happier world this would be, too…
I really hope this post was encouraging to you! If you have any questions or comments, please let me know. I’d love to hear from you
Have a great day!