A Better Life

If you’re like the average person in the world, you’re probably addicted to your phone.

If you’re like me, you probably hate how addicted you are to your phone, but you feel powerless and lazy to change it.

Smartphones are an incredible thing. Who would have ever thought that someday we would be able to have a mini computer, a good quality camera, games, and the ability to contact people all within one small device? It’s amazing, isn’t it?

But as amazing as smartphones are, they’re equally evil, if not more so.

They suck you in no matter what age you are. No matter how many times you watched someone else on their phone and said, “I’m never going to be like that!” you eventually find yourself mirroring exactly how they were with their phone.

The phones entrap you. They keep you from conversing with others, from spending quality time with loved ones, from reading a good book that you can hold in your hand and actually turn the pages on, from doing fun activities, and so on.

Phones are also a danger. While driving, people text, take phone calls, check Instagram and Facebook, and who knows what else. This causes serious accidents and people get hurt or die.
Also while walking where cars are driving by, people are looking down at their phones and nearly get hit. I’ve seen it so many times.

I realize, that for me personally, the majority of my time is spent on my phone. Whether I’m texting or mindlessly refreshing an app, I am always on it.

Why do I close an app and reopen it instantly even though I know nothing’s changed?

Why do I check the weather app a hundred times a day for no reason at all?

Why do I mindlessly scroll through my camera roll?

Why do I have to check for new blog posts while I’m watching a movie or doing something?

Why can’t I put my phone down?

The answer is simple, my friends.

1. Contentment – We think that if we are bored out of our minds that our phones will make us content. We’ll have fun with our phones. We’ll be entertained. We’ll read something interesting. But in all reality, it doesn’t make us content. It only makes us thirst for more and more and the more that happens, the further sucked in we become.

2. Identification – I think just about anyone who has a smartphone has social media, am I right? Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, whatever. Social media isn’t just so you can see what everyone else is up to. It’s not about the other person. It’s all about YOU. It’s about you liking a post, you commenting on a post first, you receiving a reply, you receiving likes and comments on your posts. You want people to react and to like what you have to say. In doing that – you are seeking acceptance and identification. You think that if all these people like what you’re saying, then you’re cool and are finding identification in them. You’re constantly checking to see if someone liked or commented on something you posted. When you get one – it’s not enough. You need more. If it’s just the one like or the one comment you get, you feel depressed. Like no one likes what you have to say. And so you move to another source in your phone to make you feel better.

3. Obsession – Ultimately, your phone grows into an unhealthy obsession that you can’t shake. All your contentment and pleasure is embedded in your phone. All your identification is in the social media. And so you have to be on your phone all day to be entertained or to feel accepted.

Now, I’m not saying that everyone is like this, but I think that this is true for a lot of people. It’s true for me. Is it true for you?

Let’s go through those three words again with a Godly perspective:

1. Contentment – We can only be perfectly content and satisfied through God. He is everything we need and yet we don’t run to Him, even knowing that. He can bring us ultimate joy, ultimate satisfaction, and make us feel loved and cherished.
“Now godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.” 1 Timothy 6:6-7
Instead of running after our phones and the millions distractions in it, we should be running after God and righteousness. We should learn how to be content in Christ alone rather than in our phones.

2. Identification – We are identified in Christ alone. We are children of God. He calls us friend, sons, and daughters. We are loved, made pure, redeemed, forgiven, accepted – isn’t this what we want? We have it already! We don’t need to run to our phones for that!
“Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because it did not know Him.” 1 John 3:1

3. Obsession – We are not to be obsessed by anything in this world. We should only obsess over our Heavenly Father who has done wondrous things for us and whom we are called to serve.
“No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.” Matthew 6:24

Friends, we can overcome our obsession and addiction to our phones.

My friends, Hershey, Cookie, and I all agreed that this summer we were going to use our phones less. We put all our distracting apps into a folder way on the last page so that they would be hidden from us. So far I am realizing that I’m happier without it. I’m only using my phone to text my friends and for music. I can not believe the change I see already! Without me mindlessly doing things on my phone, I am happier because I am doing more that is worth while!

When I first agreed to do this, I felt scared. Like I wouldn’t be able to do it. But Hershey said, “You’ve done it before.”
So I started to list things that I could do to keep myself busy this summer. And I realized just how much I can do NOW that I haven’t been doing ALL this time! When I’m bored – there ARE things I can do, but instead I choose to be on my phone! I’ve been wasting my life away wrapped up in a screen instead of reading a good book, doing a craft, cleaning, working out, and so on. I felt so disgusted with myself and my phone that I wanted to throw my phone. I feel like I haven’t been living my life. And that’s pretty sad.

Have you heard the song Chain Breaker by Zach Williams? There’s a line in it that says:
“We all run to things we know just ain’t right, when there’s a better life.”

For me, that’s mostly my phone. I’m running to my phone when there are so many better and worthwhile things I could be doing.

This summer, I am choosing a better life, or rather, I’m choosing LIFE! And I hope so very much that by the time summer comes to a close, I will be in a new habit and be able to resist my phone more and to choose to do other things instead. Because being on a phone all day isn’t living.

What about you? Are you addicted to your phone? Do you want freedom from this prison? All you have to do is make the first move and with the power of God in you, the rest will be done.

“If you need freedom or saving, He’s a prison shaking Savior. If you’ve got chains, He’s a chain breaker.”

~Jaclynn~

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Fear of the Future

If you are a teenager or a pre-teen on their way to becoming a teenager, the chances are, you have some fears about the future.

The world around us has influenced our minds to make us believe that “at this age we should dress like this,” “at this age we should talk like this,” “at this age we should have a boyfriend,” and the list goes on.

With all these voices around us it can make us feel pressured and even fearful. We start to feel like we have to be or act a certain way to please others and sometimes we give in. We do that out of fear because we don’t want to feel like a black sheep in our flock of friends.

Before I turned 18 I was really afraid. Afraid of becoming an adult and all the responsibility and changes that would occur because I reached a certain age. I allowed the influences and expectations of the world to get in my head and make me feel like I had to be different when I became an adult.

“I have to get a job,” “I have to learn how to drive,” “I have to act differently,” “I don’t feel ready,” “I’m not an adult,” “I can’t do this,” – these were some thoughts that were circling in my head constantly. I was terrified of the future and what it would mean for me to become an adult all because of the influences in the world.

But I’m here today to tell you that it’s okay.


Between talks with my mom, prayers to God, and talks with family and friends, I was able to get past my fear.

When I turned 18 I didn’t feel any different. There were no sudden pushes of responsibility or expectations. I was the same and I still am.

Just because you turn 13, or 16, or 18, or 21 – it doesn’t mean that your entire world is going to change or that you have to be any different. Not right away at least. They’re just numbers. They don’t determine how mature you are – what does is your character – how you respond to situations, how you treat others, the choices you make in day to day life, and so on.

Your whole world isn’t going to suddenly change because the number of your age changes. It’s a gradual process and it’s nothing to be afraid of. In fact, I personally find it strange and exciting now. It’s an adventure and, boy! is it a crazy and fun one full of ups and downs. Each road you take leads you somewhere different and the experiences you have there will mold you into the person God created you to be.

I am going to say, though, that I am still a little afraid of the future. It’s unknown, a blank page. A road where I cannot see the end, but as long as I keep my feet on the narrow path and my eyes lifted to God, I can know and trust that everything will be okay. Because even if life doesn’t go as I had thought or “planned”, God has a bigger, better plan in store for you and for me.

So don’t be afraid, my friends. Don’t listen to the voices around you. The world, our friends, etc. – they don’t control us. We should only be focused on pleasing God, not others just so we can fit in and feel “normal.” As Christians we are meant to stand out from the crowd. We should look different. We should act different. We should dress different. Because if we don’t, we are only showing that we are like everyone else – a part of the world. But we are not of this world. Be the black sheep in the flock because even though others might see you that way, God sees you white because you are shining His light and bringing glory to Him.

Though the road ahead is long and full of trials and sometimes you may fall in a pit, God is by your side leading you every step of the way and He is there to lift you up when you are weak, for He is strong. <3

“…Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9


~Jaclynn~

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Joy Will Come

I think all of you know that my brother just got married – it was actually one month ago today!

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I’m not sure if all of you know that he and his wife are leaving us next Saturday. They are transferring jobs and have to move over 6 hours away from us.

This whole month has been really hard on us all. I’ve been crying a lot and just getting sad. I’m so close to Jordan and I know we are hardly ever going to see each other and it’s breaking my heart. The day of their departure is coming up too soon – I’m not ready to say goodbye. I’m just not.

We will see them again for Christmas which is good and then again for my birthday in February, but after that I have no idea when I’ll see them again. They said they’ll only be able to come down about 3-4 times a year and that’s including for Christmas and Thanksgiving… :(

I just feel so much pain. Such loss and heartache. And last night I realized just how much Jordan is struggling too. He has it worse than us – we’re all losing them, but he’s losing all of us. I know he’s also excited for this new chapter of his life and I’m excited for him, too, but we’re all feeling the same pain.

I know that God works everything out for good and I’ve been trying to think – what good is going to come out of this? Because right now I only see pain.

We have one of those calendar devotional things and this is what today said:

Joy will come, of this I am certain. Even though in these moments I can’t see beyond my pain, I believe that joy will come. It will because You promised. “Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy.” (Psalm 126:5)

You might be going through a similar time right now. Where all you see is pain and you don’t know how any good is going to come out of this situation, but God does make all things work out for our good. Even though we can’t see it and we don’t understand how, we have hope and trust that things will get better. Joy will come.

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Jordan and Aaryn are leaving us on the 26th – the second day of the craft fair my mom and I do. The last time we will see them is the night before, when we will say our goodbyes. I would appreciate it so much if you would keep Jordan, Aaryn, and my entire family in your prayers during this time. We’re all having a really hard time with this… :(

“Your ways are always higher, Your plans are always good, there’s not a place where I’ll go, You’ve not already stood.”

~Jaclynn~

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Out With The Old, In With The New

Have any of you ever stopped to think about how much this world has changed since you were a little kid? I have, and I’ve been thinking about it more and more these days.

I realize that when I was little, the world didn’t seem to have many problems. I knew there was still bad stuff in the world and not good things going on, but when I look back, it seems like it wasn’t nearly as bad as it is now.

I feel like just about every day there’s something I hear that’s happening in the world, or how people are acting, that honestly makes me feel sick. There is such evil in this world, so much darkness. So much hate, pain, and suffering (this isn’t a Star Wars reference, I’m being real here).

People in this world are unsatisfied with what they have and are always seeking more and more, hoping that the new big thing will fill that void, but it won’t. It’s just a circle we keep spinning around in.


I miss the old days. When people seemed more pleasant and life seemed better. It saddens me to realize that things are only going to get worse (before it gets better). But together, we can help make this world what it used to be. You all have a Light inside you. A Light that is just begging to shine for all the world to see. “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in Heaven.” ~Matthew 5:16


I’m gonna be honest here, lately I’ve been feeling blah and depressed. I didn’t know why until yesterday. I realize I’m not satisfied. I want more. I’m becoming bored with the same thing I’m doing each day. But you know what? Doing new things isn’t going to completely satisfy me (though it’s great to do new things). The only thing that can truly satisfy me is the love and joy I have in Christ Jesus. He is our satisfaction. We have eternal joy in him. It’s not something we have to ask Him for when we need it, we already have it inside us. We just need to dig deep inside ourselves and allow¬†it to come out.

I challenge you (me included) to be full of joy this week. Shine the Light of God to those around you that they may see something special, something different about you. That spark of joy that others long for. We are God’s children, and don’t children love to brag about their parents? Then how much more so should we be boasting in The Lord!

We can make a change in this world. Be joyful, be kind, be courageous. It’ll be contagious. In with the old, out with the new ūüėČ

~Jaclynn~

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Modesty & True Beauty

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about modesty and true beauty.

This summer I have been having an extremely hard time trying to find a modest¬†swimsuit. It’s honestly sickening that there are hardly any one pieces sold anymore. And the ones there are, the prints are ugly. All the cute prints are used on the hundreds of bikinis, unfortunately.
Is this really what our world has come to? Just think of how people used to dress hundreds of years ago. Women covered their entire body – if a woman’s ankle showed, it was scandalous.
Then eventually, it became okay to show your ankles. Then your arms, then shoulders.
In the time we’re living in now, girls expose their entire legs, their stomachs, backs – just about every part of their body. Girls in church even dress this way.

1 Timothy 2:9-10 says;
“….in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but which proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”

To quote the notes in my Bible; “The emphasis is that women should dress appropriately when at worship, and not put on extravagant clothes that draw attention to themselves. Propriety means reverence and respect, shrinking away from what is inappropriate.”

God doesn’t want us to dress inappropriately, He wants us to be modest and not wear things that bring attention to ourselves. It’s sad that girls these days feel like they need to dress a certain way to be “beautiful.” True beauty comes from within and it’s really what’s inside you that’s important.

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

“For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

Practice true beauty. Be the person God wants you to be. Kindness, love, self-control, compassion, strength, faith, trust, generosity, – these are all things that make you truly beautiful. :)

~Jaclynn~

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